Dear Lisa:
I am traveling to France in a few weeks. With the current world events, I worry that speaking about politics will not be wise. What else can I speak to with my business associates that won't be too "simple" but not too explosive either?
M.W
Scottsdale, Arizona
Dear M.W.
Thank you very much for this great question. It is true that the French appreciate a good discussion and debate on most topics. However, when you have a particularly sensitive topic that people feel very strongly about, it is generally a good idea to steer the conversation to a safer place.
First, keep your own passion under control.
Then, if you agree with their politics in whole or in part, express it. If you feel that there will be substantial negative passion around the topic, probe carefully! For a careful discussion, stay away from directly stating your own opinion or from asking for his/her opinion. Instead, ask about third-party opinions or solution-oriented opinions. For example:
"What opinions do you hear in the media about French public opinion?
"Are there French newspapers that have distinctly different perspectives on the topic (of war)?"
"What solutions do the French see as viable?"
"What kinds of preventative measures do you think the world (or the U.S.) could take so as not to find itself in this difficult situation again?"
Of course, once you have an idea of their own views on the topic, you are in a much better place to know whether a change of topic is best for everyone, or not.
As always, remember that exchanging ideas with others is not about continuing to beat your same drum, but to truly listen to the ideas of others. It is how you listen and react to your counterparts' opinions that will be the judge of your character, and possibly, your future business relationship.
